i think you should do what makes you happy,what will make you feel better ajd those who judge you are only empty and wont see the real you..u should be okay..xxx
I really feel you on this. It's hard sometimes to pick and choose what you want to reveal. I sometimes base my decision on how comfortable I am with sharing and could I if need be explain myself (which in reality i shouldn't have too)
I haven't had any negative feedback from classmates/friends that know about my blog and I'm currently aware of 2 of them because they actually call me Dat1Okrikagirl and giggle when they see me, which doesnt really bother me. The only people I really don't want to find my blog/identity are my parents (now they would kill me).
I hate to hear that the decision on how much to reveal is preoccupying your mind, please don't worry yourself too much.
**to help ease your mind I just want to let you know I don't know who you are.
I’m sorry I disappeared…I couldn’t read your entry from my phone.
Anyway this isn’t just anxiety; it is fear i.e. it an emotional response to possible external threats to you. it is natural
I think the same 2. for the most part I’m not afraid of what strangers think of me. What I say hear is what I think of myself…it is one sided...just my side.
A friend knows about my blog. She blogs 2 and it irks me. why? Bcos I realised that most people don’t know all about me. I tend to speak to different people about specific things… she know some of my secrets but not all here… she has free reign to my thoughts!
But you can’t live in fear of forever being judged as ‘bad’. What does ‘bad’ me anyway? It is all subjective. If you look in the mirror and are happy with who you are or the path you need to follwo to get u to where you need to go to become that person… simply do what you have too… do it without planning to intentionally hurt people by speaking your truth fairly.
Hey, I love your blog. The handwriting stuff is cool. How did you do it? Ok, so you're a life introvert as well as a cyber introvert. Yet you were/are a contestant on blogville idol.I guess you're opening up lil by lil. Anyway, you don't have to blog about everything. I usually blog private info I know can't really hurt me or anyone else.Besides I have my pic on my blog so i'm easy to trace. You on the other hand use your handwriting and I don't think we have any forensic or whateveritiscalled bloggers around. Have fun blogging!
eeya, i feel u....but if it'l make u feel better lettin it all out, go ahead, u arent necessarily the only one goin thru whatever, so ur anonymity can still be hidden..
Oh, yeah, I'm lame. I've been chatting with you on the twit and never made it to your blog, until now!
Wow!
Great topic. I felt the same way when I began my blog -- which was supposed to be all about tablets and creative writing. I went so far astray, didn't I?
Fortunately or strangely or I don't just get it, but almost none of the peole who read my blog are people I really know, so it frees me up to just be me. I try not to use names though, as I don't want to bring friends and family unwillingly into this thing called the blogiverse...
Anyway, I'm so glad I found you, and just as an aside, I think blogging can be a personal way of being impersonal, you know? It's much harder to discuss things that really matter in person...I'm working on that, though (:
Oh yeah, your handwriting ROCKS! Quick tablet hint -- have you tried the program "My Font Tool"? It's a tablet pc powertoy for creating your own font with your handwriting...it was made for Windows XP Tablet PC edition, but it works on Vista. It's soooo easy, I swear, you can create an entire handwritten font in like five minutes! I mention this because I would BUY a font of your handwriting. Heh. Oh, one feature of the program doesen't work in Vista...there's a button that allows you to change the system font (icons, menus, etc.) to your new handwritten font! I tried it in XP and it was freaky trippy cool...I'm sure there's a spot in Vista where you can change the system font, if you want. With your handwriting, it would look very, very cool! Okay, I'm like rambling...anyway, glad I found you!
Lol, i understand what you mean and everything, but i just loved the whole dilivery
how much is too much? its a risk that has to be taken, i think blogs are a great way to just let it all out, just let all the stress go...you have people to advise and confort you,its great...
This blog - and this entry - is cool on so many levels. Is that really your hand writing? I love how you put it online like that. In regards to what you stated in your fabulous entry, I have to agree. It's strange that I've never been one of those people who can keep up a diary and yet I blog on a - literally - daily basis. And I love it. At the same time I know I'd NEVER say some of the more intimate parts of my life (my thoughts, the people in it, how I feel about them sometimes and all the time). I seem like the most open person in the world but I'm also the most guarded. If I'm in love with someone, they'd never know it. What I'm feeling I often keep to myself. Sometimes I blow up every once in a while and it's often with my family. Dad says your family knows what buttons to push and they push them because they can. You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family. Great post.
Just the whole anonymous blog idea should help you to easily voice what's going on in your head. It's the comfort of knowing that people read what I have to say, but can't judge me accurately, cos they don't know me, that makes it easy for me to write in careless oblivion. Hope you feel better about writing o.
P.S. I'm not just looking for gist. Lol. I'm an example of the fact that sharing makes you feel better about a lot of things.
oh ma gosh!!!!!!!!!!! U TOOK THe words right outta my mouth!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I KNU PEOPLE WHO READ MY BLOG THAT I KNU IN REAL LIFE.....it caused me to take down manyyyyyyy posts...NOW AM CONCIOUS ABOUT SAYING too much...OR HURTING FEELINGS!!!!!!!!!!!! i do try not to censore my true feelings tho....IF I HAVE TO DO THIS...THEN I DNT BLOG ABOUT IT AT ALL THEN...... p.s: koko lurrrrrrrrve...xoxo
its all about timing. it only means the time is not right to pour it all out. when it is right u would pour it out. for now just enjoy writing randomly, u'lld be alright dearie.
my dear go for it....feel free to express whatever is on your mind....care less about what ppl will think about you.... I used to be like that but i have learned to blog about most of my probs and the ppl out here are very friendly and supportive.....blogging can be therapeutic if you want it to be ... i will surely give a nice one to the ppl i have met on blogland cos they were there to call on when i needed help and prayers.
i know its might be a lil bit difficult but i will advice that you do go for it. I did wrote something like this last year when i felt my blog wasn't really fulfilling its purpose....be open ...take the risk and give it a try.
Do what makes u feel true to yourself and secured. Don't go leaving us now..i feel the same way. Sometimes, i start typing and then wonder..have i exposed my identity....All the best dear!
feel you. I'm new to the blogoshpere and I'm an introvert also so I had that same problem. Well, I still do but my alter ego who doesn't seem to care much about what people think is beginning to show his true colors.
I'll say write what you feel comfortable writing. I'm sure you already know this though. Ciao!!
...eventually, it matters not if one's identity will be unveiled - 'tis which ever way you look at it. But then, blogs ain't for identity unveiling rather thots expressing.
I started blogging because I just wanted to write...I did not think of "what" I wanted to write...I just wanted a place where I could write as much as I wanted to. Receiving comments came as a pleasant surprise, but I have to say it was not all pleasant cos just like in the real world...not everybody will like you or what you have to say.
My blog had just evolved on its own, I write down my personal thoughts just as much as I write fiction...
My identity was compromised once...and at first it bothered me...but then I thought...but this is ME, this is who I am...my thoughts are really what I think.....why should I be ashamed of ME?
Since then, I just write what I feel like...I have nothing to be ashamed of...and if somebody knows its me...who cares? I don't even care what people in my real life think about me, talkless of in "vitual reality"?
Also, something that I do that helps me a lot is even though I write about a lot of personal stuff, I just leave most of them as "drafts". I find that it is the process of writing that helps and not the fact of it actually being posted. Hence, most of my very personal thoughts and feelings are written but never posted. Sort of like a diary...just post the parts you feel comfortable sharing, the other parts, just save them. Try it.
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Do whatever feels right, dear. We all go there sometimes.
IT IS WELL
cheers!!
i think you should do what makes you happy,what will make you feel better ajd those who judge you are only empty and wont see the real you..u should be okay..xxx
thanks for passing by my blog btw.xxx
I think a lot of people are having this quandry right now and I don't know what the best/right solution is.
I do hope you find the right one for you though...you've inspired a blog post on my part, anyhow...must find time to write it.
Its a risk we all take...sometimes I feel I should leave my family out of it, then I feel I should leave relationships out of it...
but usually its just whatever feels right...
wow....hmmn....I know the feeling...sincerely I do...
I really feel you on this. It's hard sometimes to pick and choose what you want to reveal. I sometimes base my decision on how comfortable I am with sharing and could I if need be explain myself (which in reality i shouldn't have too)
I haven't had any negative feedback from classmates/friends that know about my blog and I'm currently aware of 2 of them because they actually call me Dat1Okrikagirl and giggle when they see me, which doesnt really bother me.
The only people I really don't want to find my blog/identity are my parents (now they would kill me).
I hate to hear that the decision on how much to reveal is preoccupying your mind, please don't worry yourself too much.
**to help ease your mind I just want to let you know I don't know who you are.
I’m sorry I disappeared…I couldn’t read your entry from my phone.
Anyway this isn’t just anxiety; it is fear i.e. it an emotional response to possible external threats to you. it is natural
I think the same 2. for the most part I’m not afraid of what strangers think of me. What I say hear is what I think of myself…it is one sided...just my side.
A friend knows about my blog. She blogs 2 and it irks me. why? Bcos I realised that most people don’t know all about me. I tend to speak to different people about specific things… she know some of my secrets but not all here… she has free reign to my thoughts!
But you can’t live in fear of forever being judged as ‘bad’. What does ‘bad’ me anyway? It is all subjective. If you look in the mirror and are happy with who you are or the path you need to follwo to get u to where you need to go to become that person… simply do what you have too… do it without planning to intentionally hurt people by speaking your truth fairly.
Do it for U dearie!!!
Hey, I love your blog. The handwriting stuff is cool. How did you do it?
Ok, so you're a life introvert as well as a cyber introvert. Yet you were/are a contestant on blogville idol.I guess you're opening up lil by lil.
Anyway, you don't have to blog about everything. I usually blog private info I know can't really hurt me or anyone else.Besides I have my pic on my blog so i'm easy to trace. You on the other hand use your handwriting and I don't think we have any forensic or whateveritiscalled bloggers around. Have fun blogging!
eeya, i feel u....but if it'l make u feel better lettin it all out, go ahead, u arent necessarily the only one goin thru whatever, so ur anonymity can still be hidden..
Oh, yeah, I'm lame. I've been chatting with you on the twit and never made it to your blog, until now!
Wow!
Great topic. I felt the same way when I began my blog -- which was supposed to be all about tablets and creative writing. I went so far astray, didn't I?
Fortunately or strangely or I don't just get it, but almost none of the peole who read my blog are people I really know, so it frees me up to just be me. I try not to use names though, as I don't want to bring friends and family unwillingly into this thing called the blogiverse...
Anyway, I'm so glad I found you, and just as an aside, I think blogging can be a personal way of being impersonal, you know? It's much harder to discuss things that really matter in person...I'm working on that, though (:
Oh yeah, your handwriting ROCKS! Quick tablet hint -- have you tried the program "My Font Tool"? It's a tablet pc powertoy for creating your own font with your handwriting...it was made for Windows XP Tablet PC edition, but it works on Vista. It's soooo easy, I swear, you can create an entire handwritten font in like five minutes! I mention this because I would BUY a font of your handwriting. Heh. Oh, one feature of the program doesen't work in Vista...there's a button that allows you to change the system font (icons, menus, etc.) to your new handwritten font! I tried it in XP and it was freaky trippy cool...I'm sure there's a spot in Vista where you can change the system font, if you want. With your handwriting, it would look very, very cool! Okay, I'm like rambling...anyway, glad I found you!
this migth sound really stupid, but i loved that
Lol, i understand what you mean and everything, but i just loved the whole dilivery
how much is too much? its a risk that has to be taken, i think blogs are a great way to just let it all out, just let all the stress go...you have people to advise and confort you,its great...
but you do whateva you feel is right
me im always here sha, to comfort and advise
okay, blogger has fixed it's problem.
Sending you a virtual hug.
but is not like you leaving right? pls say no :(
Just take it easy.
This blog - and this entry - is cool on so many levels. Is that really your hand writing? I love how you put it online like that. In regards to what you stated in your fabulous entry, I have to agree. It's strange that I've never been one of those people who can keep up a diary and yet I blog on a - literally - daily basis. And I love it. At the same time I know I'd NEVER say some of the more intimate parts of my life (my thoughts, the people in it, how I feel about them sometimes and all the time). I seem like the most open person in the world but I'm also the most guarded. If I'm in love with someone, they'd never know it. What I'm feeling I often keep to myself. Sometimes I blow up every once in a while and it's often with my family. Dad says your family knows what buttons to push and they push them because they can. You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family. Great post.
Just the whole anonymous blog idea should help you to easily voice what's going on in your head. It's the comfort of knowing that people read what I have to say, but can't judge me accurately, cos they don't know me, that makes it easy for me to write in careless oblivion. Hope you feel better about writing o.
P.S. I'm not just looking for gist. Lol. I'm an example of the fact that sharing makes you feel better about a lot of things.
oh ma gosh!!!!!!!!!!! U TOOK THe words right outta my mouth!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I KNU PEOPLE WHO READ MY BLOG THAT I KNU IN REAL LIFE.....it caused me to take down manyyyyyyy posts...NOW AM CONCIOUS ABOUT SAYING too much...OR HURTING FEELINGS!!!!!!!!!!!! i do try not to censore my true feelings tho....IF I HAVE TO DO THIS...THEN I DNT BLOG ABOUT IT AT ALL THEN......
p.s: koko lurrrrrrrrve...xoxo
its all about timing. it only means the time is not right to pour it all out. when it is right u would pour it out. for now just enjoy writing randomly, u'lld be alright dearie.
my dear go for it....feel free to express whatever is on your mind....care less about what ppl will think about you.... I used to be like that but i have learned to blog about most of my probs and the ppl out here are very friendly and supportive.....blogging can be therapeutic if you want it to be ... i will surely give a nice one to the ppl i have met on blogland cos they were there to call on when i needed help and prayers.
i know its might be a lil bit difficult but i will advice that you do go for it. I did wrote something like this last year when i felt my blog wasn't really fulfilling its purpose....be open ...take the risk and give it a try.
just be anonymous.......so that blogging can be therapeutic 4u.....even my boyfriend who is my second heart doesnt knw i blog....
I also started blogging cos I was lonely bored n had lots 2 say.
I believe u can find a balance; share ur thoughts but not all of it, share ur experiences but nit all of it or just code it.
Wen i started blogging I was really bent on remaining anonymous, now am not bothered, cos really its my life n i have learnt a lot 4rm blogville.
Do what makes u feel true to yourself and secured. Don't go leaving us now..i feel the same way. Sometimes, i start typing and then wonder..have i exposed my identity....All the best dear!
feel you. I'm new to the blogoshpere and I'm an introvert also so I had that same problem. Well, I still do but my alter ego who doesn't seem to care much about what people think is beginning to show his true colors.
I'll say write what you feel comfortable writing. I'm sure you already know this though.
Ciao!!
...eventually, it matters not if one's identity will be unveiled - 'tis which ever way you look at it. But then, blogs ain't for identity unveiling rather thots expressing.
I started blogging because I just wanted to write...I did not think of "what" I wanted to write...I just wanted a place where I could write as much as I wanted to. Receiving comments came as a pleasant surprise, but I have to say it was not all pleasant cos just like in the real world...not everybody will like you or what you have to say.
My blog had just evolved on its own, I write down my personal thoughts just as much as I write fiction...
My identity was compromised once...and at first it bothered me...but then I thought...but this is ME, this is who I am...my thoughts are really what I think.....why should I be ashamed of ME?
Since then, I just write what I feel like...I have nothing to be ashamed of...and if somebody knows its me...who cares? I don't even care what people in my real life think about me, talkless of in "vitual reality"?
Also, something that I do that helps me a lot is even though I write about a lot of personal stuff, I just leave most of them as "drafts". I find that it is the process of writing that helps and not the fact of it actually being posted. Hence, most of my very personal thoughts and feelings are written but never posted. Sort of like a diary...just post the parts you feel comfortable sharing, the other parts, just save them. Try it.
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